Trigger Warning: This poem contains references to sexual coercion, boundary violations, and childhood abuse, which may be distressing for some readers. Please take care of your heart while reading, and step away if you need to.
Featured Survivor’s Poem on Confusion, Conditioning, Coercion, & Consent
This poem explores the complexities of consent and the internal conflict that can make a firm “no” feel unsafe or uncertain for survivors of abuse.
May this survivor’s poem remind you that your experiences matter and that there is strength in speaking your truth. Healing takes courage, and every step toward reclaiming your boundaries is a step toward your freedom.
To Think A No Means Yes
Do I turn you on
The depth beneath my eyes
When I stare at you straight on
Is it an invitation
Does no mean yes
Is it the fear my father instilled
When he restrained my arms
When I was crying out to escape
Is it the way I rest my head
On your bed
Is it the demons submerged between our skin
Is it your biological nature
To think a no means yes
Is it my mothers empathy
That sees the good in others
The maternal need to soothe pain
Is it the softness that is your seduction
My naive inner child that laughs at the game
When no fades to okay
– julez.r.forever
Let’s Talk
After reading this brave survivor’s poem let’s reflect…
What insights or practices have supported you in rebuilding trust in your own ‘no’ after experiences that made it feel confusing or unsafe?
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With love and grace,
Madison Taylore