Tag: Domestic Violence Awareness Month

A Small Moment, A Big Shift— Recently, I was at the grocery store with my man on a late-night ice cream run. I grabbed a pint of chocolate cookies and cream while he browsed a few feet away. Then I spotted those chocolate-covered ice cream bars — you know, the kind on a stick. I… Read more

Not Just the Hurt, But the Undoing— This part is hard to talk about. Not just because of what “Aaron” did — but because of what I let happen.What I accepted.What I excused.What I even defended. There were days — weeks — when he didn’t touch me, didn’t speak unless it was with sharpness. Especially… Read more

The “Reconciliation” Phase (sometimes called the “honeymoon phase”) is when the abuser attempts to repair the damage—not through accountability, but through charm, affection, or excuses. It’s the emotional reset that keeps the cycle of abuse in motion. An Abuser’s False Promises vs. God’s True Ones The other day, it rained — a rare event in… Read more

“The Explosion” when the tension that has been building finally erupts into a clear act of abuse. This can include physical violence, emotional attacks, verbal outbursts, sexual assault, or coercive control—any behavior meant to intimidate, harm, or dominate the victim. There’s a moment in every abusive cycle when the silence gives way to something louder—something… Read more

“Walking on Eggshells” Living in constant caution—monitoring your words, actions, and even thoughts—because any small misstep could trigger anger or conflict. I never thought of myself as insecure. In fact, my mom loves to tell this story: when I was a toddler, a neighbor boy was coming over to play. I was upstairs in full… Read more